Although we acknowledge intellectually that growth is not always constant, we can find it difficult emotionally to accept mistakes and setbacks, feeling like they push us back in our development to a place we should not be (I should be here by this stage of my life, not back there, I’ve already covered this ground!), or cause us to lag behind in a competitive
race against others.
But imagine if, instead of a linear path, we actually sit in the centre, with life surrounding us in every direction. Not the egocentric perspective that we are the centre of the universe, but in the sense that life emanates and radiates around us.
In this multidimensional view, we are embraced by life. Surrounding us are other people, all living things, experiences and events that have already happened and those that might yet happen.
How would this transform our thinking?
- Instead of success or failure, good or bad, we simply live experiences. We move from one to another, not forward or backward, just immersed in experience.
- Instead of fighting for finite resources, the whole world surrounds us. We have support and tools in every direction to pluck from—and give back to—an abundant exchange.
- There’s no rush because we have nowhere to be (and nowhere we should be) other than where we are right now.
- Instead of pining for or regretting the past, we see that the past is moments hovering around us. We can dip into them for memories or lessons, but they don’t bind us. Instead of craving the future, we see that it’s surrounding us and we create experiences from it—we can step in any direction and make a mosaic from any combination of things we find.
With this perspective, we are all connected by spirit, by soul, by the life force. We don’t begin and end relationships; they are eternal. Our connections are not only with the living, breathing people we interact with in our daily lives—they are also with people we’ve ‘lost’ (whether through a broken relationship or through death), and with people we’ve not yet met. Thus no one is ever truly lost or unconnected to us.
How would this transform our relationships?
- In this paradigm, everyone is equal and everyone is respected. Although we still live in a world with a man-made hierarchy, we realise it’s ephemeral. We are released from feeling better than or less than; and from treating others as better than or less than.
- We can loosen our psychological grip on others, especially on those we love. When we know we can never truly lose them—and that they are not ours but shared—we can appreciate them as they are rather than in terms of how they relate to us.
- We are not in competition but in complement with each other. As we create, we add to our shared treasure, and it is all of value.
With this perspective, the whole world hovers around this moment in time. It becomes easier to live in the moment we are in.
Have you had a shift in perspective that has helped you see life in a more helpful way?